@moondog548 as one of their peers, you can have a huge impact on toxic behavior in 3-5 simple words:

"Dude, not cool."
"What the fuck, man?"
"Hey, that was fucked up."

Pick whatever variation works best for your peer group, and snap back with it as soon as the bullshit leaves their mouth. Be upset and make it uncomfortable for a moment. Don't let them brush it off as a joke.

@Aprazeth @vkc

@byrnensorg there's good reason for a lot of anger at some things. The problems have always been here too, but due to active moderation and the nature of federation, it can be less visible (except to the people who get sucker-punched).

Also, the only way we keep Fedi from becoming Twitter is by believing the victims instead of the trolls.

@vkc

@byrnensorg I gotta believe we can do better than this, because the alternative is pretty fucking sad.

@vkc

@semitones thanks for bringing that up 🩷 seems like a good time to boost that post again.

@vkc

@vkc sadly this is an issue that'll only start to get better when guys call other guys out on this behavior—every time they see it.

@vkc ugh. I saw your earlier post and I'm so sorry 🫂

A *lot* of (mostly) guys need to learn the difference between appropriate, consensual flirting, and sexual harassment.