@Kernelkebap

You should approach this potlatch style: you offer a graphic description of something nasty that happened to you, to the public, unsolicited - be sure to roll around in it, really feel all the horrible feelings it evoked. Make sure to link the other party.

**Then** you can ask someone else to do the same, realizing that they aren't obligated to return your 'gift' in kind.

@vkc

@Orb2069 @vkc It's 2026 and we still dealing with those people's "ideologies" from ancient times of humanity. It haunted everyone back in those days, it haunted everyone through ages and it still keeps haunting people till this moment.

@alex02 @vkc boop boop boop deleted

@alex02@elonsucks.org @vkc Block or block and report.

Not really difficult to decide in this case.

Edit : Done @alex02@elonsucks.org blocked and reported

@vkc women will just stay on corporate social media even more because at least the user base there isn't so heavily skewed white male. I'd only been posting regularly for about a week here and got tone policed by some dude who said he was muting me for 30 days because I wasn't cheery enough. I extended his 30 days with a block. I've been in tech for over 25 years and I don't play.

@disorderlyf @vkc Thanks, that explains some of the non sequiturs I just read!

@marud

Active exploits like 'supremacy' against cognitive flaws in the inhereted codebase being run against unpatched instances in the wild.

The idea that people think they're superior while acting like monkeys flinging verbal shit at something they don't like is noted, but not comforting.

@vkc

@vkc @eq there’s a sample from a Consolidated song that’s lives rent free in my head since the late 90s and it goes “It’s men who need to inform other men about what … SHIT women go through”

@vkc @alex02 yiiiiiiikes

@vkc
I hear you

@eq

@vkc ugh. I saw your earlier post and I'm so sorry 🫂

A *lot* of (mostly) guys need to learn the difference between appropriate, consensual flirting, and sexual harassment.

@bob I always report and block. My problem is I need the collective *you* to report and block. And more.

@vkc @effariwhy the social media equivalent of some dickhead shouting CHEER UP LOVE from a passing car it's so fucking sad it's actually comical.

@vkc@linuxmom.net I hope you're fine. Harassers are such awful people. I hope they don't do that to you ever again, and that admins in our instances do their best to block them

@alex02 @vkc Just chiming into say im blocking you too.

@bob

I think the "I" in that reply needs to be "you" and "me" for that to work.
If it is just the woman doing the moderation, then those guys just keep doing it, and it becomes "women's work".

@vkc

@vkc sadly this is an issue that'll only start to get better when guys call other guys out on this behavior—every time they see it.

@alice @vkc I think you are too generous in assuming the *lot* can learn anything at this stage, it's like teaching a hammer 'there are other things than nails you know'.

@semitones thanks for bringing that up 🩷 seems like a good time to boost that post again.

@vkc

@alice @vkc

Absolutely. We, as men, *must* step up. Not only with standing against sexual harassment; but also the "edgy" comments

Its easy to spout as a man you'd stand against brutality. But yet we're often quiet when women, POC, are ignored, belittled, etc.

Creating a world where we all are safe from harm is stopping **all** forms of harassment, staring, belittling, catcalling. At. All. Times.

Men, we need to do better and hold each other accountable. For everyone, including ourselves