@moondog548 as one of their peers, you can have a huge impact on toxic behavior in 3-5 simple words:

"Dude, not cool."
"What the fuck, man?"
"Hey, that was fucked up."

Pick whatever variation works best for your peer group, and snap back with it as soon as the bullshit leaves their mouth. Be upset and make it uncomfortable for a moment. Don't let them brush it off as a joke.

@Aprazeth @vkc

@alex02 @vkc what are you even on about

@vkc Goddammit. Men suck (as a man).

@moondog548 @alice @vkc

There are differing styles of communication and personalities to take into account, so don't necessarily use these as-is. Adapt to your situation/style/personality

Some examples to get started (for the edgy remark retorts)

- Not cool dude
- that's fucked up
- ask them to explain what they meant, make them explain their "edgy" stuff

But above all, be the better example. Support women, POC, LGBTQ, and *believe them* when they call out stuff

@moondog548 @alice @vkc

And keep in mind: some men will just be monsters. No amount of social pressure or calling out will work on them as they keep making those remarks

In those instances - ostracize them from your life, and warn others. Do not accept them as "quirky but harmless". Because it will escalate, and will draw in others. That will prompt "but he says it, and it's accepted so I should be able to say it as well"

> Silence now is implied endorsement later.

@vkc I’m very sorry to hear this. Just this morning I watched your videos on installing Linux on Chromebooks and comparing standard Mint to Debian Mint (loved the visual REM reference, btw). And a few days ago your video about installing Linux on M1 Macs inspired me to do just that.

You’re doing great work, and I really appreciate you being on PeerTube. Thanks much!

@vkc had some best way not engage ignore block report.

if you engage, you already lost.

@mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

I do a lot of coding for the MPAQ network. Sitting here working on other things and wondering if i could build a database/site to collect names@instances that someone sends...

@bob
There is something like that afaik
Not sure if it wound up as an app, but women were circulating a blocklist of known gremlins

@RegGuy @vkc

@vkc

I just can send you hugs, and apple pies.

@vkc Real men understand what consent means. Real men don't treat women like garbage. Real men fight that shit.

Be a real man, not garbage who make women uncomfortable to be who they are.

#FightThatShit

@vkc for anyone openly harassing someone on the Fediverse please leave and never come back.

Sorry to hear what you are dealing with

@vkc I’m sorry the grubs are still around

@alex02 @vkc go to Twitter go to Bluesky. She’s not asking for argument.

@vkc I’m sorry for what you went through. Hope you’re doing ok.

@mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

Been searching but no luck finding a site that would let someone "report a bad user"...

@vkc
Gods dang it, fedi. Be better.

@vkc okay, how to take responsibility for fedi culture. Hmm. Sure can look for it and push back, if I happen to see it at the right time, but that seems minimal.
I wonder if anyone has tried setting up a honeypot for sexual harassment?

@moondog548
This is the way.

@haltroy @vkc